Take Action!

Posted: February 15, 2012 by Kara in marriage

I woke up this morning and I didn’t know his name, I woke up this morning to what time had stolen away I searched, I looked but I couldn’t seem to find the man I had married, once upon a time.

As I gazed upon him in the morning light, I tried to find the familiarity within this man beside me. But time had taken away from me what I once had held so dear. My heart ached within me as I searched so hard to find , just one glimpse of who he was, this man lying beside me

Where did he go, it seemed so long ago. I wanted to find something in order to take the blame, but then I slowly realized that the blame only one could hold I couldn’t begin to fathom what I let time steal away

You see I went through life casting blame upon this man beside me,  but all I had to really do was take the time to heal, from all the let downs and disappointments that seemed to come our way.

To lie upon his shoulder and remember he was on my side. The tears began to fill my eyes from the memories of all the years that I had lost. You see I soon realized that sometimes it just takes one, One simple prayer, one simple time to put our trust in the Masters hand, to heal all the brokenness we can’t seem to carry on our own.

I could’ve given it to Him instead of casting all the blame upon this man beside me. You see I soon began to remember through all the yesteryears, of how he showed me he loved me in ways I didn’t understand.

Oh if only I could turn back time today, I would love him with such a love that my heart cannot contain.

You see I soon realized that love is not just an emotion but an action on my part. And because of lack of action, I woke up to find what time had stolen away.

You will have to excuse me because I still have longing in my heart, so I must go now to steal back what time has stolen away.

Ladies don’t forget that love inside your heart for your husband; remember it is action that will bring the love flowing back into your marriage. Let go and let God so that time doesn’t steal away precious memories, a precious friendship only meant for the two of you.

Share your heart with him; tell him how you feel loved.  Listen to his heart, Pray together, Find each other.  You are on the same team, fight like there is no tomorrow.  Fight like you’re trying to steal back time. Don’t let go of that man who has such great potential, believe in him, love him, and bring action to your marriage.

If it’s late in years you can still change your tomorrow. If it’s still early on then you have a blessing ahead of you so don’t let time slip away by anger and resentment by what he doesn’t do or maybe doesn’t see. Show him, lead him with your gentleness not with strife or quarrel. Yes those days will slip in, out of human nature, but that’s the time we place it in God’s hands and make a change that isn’t easy but oh so necessary for a great future ahead for our marriages. Get on your knees and don’t let go of what God has in store for your marriage, what he designed it to be.

Find a good mentor someone to help you grow when time gets hard. You won’t always like what she has to say but remember that she is on your side and make sure she is for growth in your marriage. He will come around, we both have to do our part but if he isn’t willing yet, you still have an obligation to do yours. Make sure God is your number one and your husband is your number two. It will be hard for some but I know you can do it. (Disclaimer: this does not mean putting up with physical or emotional abuse, seek safety.)

I pray many blessings on your marriages!I know that there are those men that may seem unlovable sometimes,  but they still need love, still long for love,  and respect from you, they just don’t know how to ask sometimes. Maybe ask them, maybe they need to get uncomfortable in order to see your love and motives for them.

A quote from a book I read by Mark Batterson says: “Pray like it depends on God but work like it depends on you” so that time doesn’t steal away time from your life like the lady in the poem above.

Take action Ladies!  We cannot make anyone do anything but ourselves.  Take action, it just might change the man you’re married too. Your action might transform your marriage and a miracle might take place.  Don’t let time steal away what God wants you to have in your marriage, don’t grow old and look upon your husband wondering who he is, learn your husband, and let him teach you who he is by being his best friend!

  1. Chelsa says:

    Great advice! I love it!! Good Job!

  2. Chelsa says:

    I love the blog- its gonna be a great tool!

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